We automatically tend to assume the following:
- The way I see something is the way it is.
- The way I feel about someone is the way he or she is.
- The way I remember an event is the way it was.
- If you disagree with me, you are stupid, a liar, or psychotic.
The irony is that this assumptive thought base (all problems and misunderstandings are external to me) IS the apex of self-imposed ignorance, deception, and even psychosis (disconnection from reality). Probably the only reason it is not considered pathological is that it is endemic.